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Monday, July 21, 2008

An interruption of the BEST kind!





Right now, at this very moment, my middle child, whom also is my middle daughter, along with her boyfriend, and their dog Ida, are on their long drive home to me! It is about a 20 hour drive with quick stops and if everything goes well they should be here at around 9 tonight! They have not been home since May of last year. They will be home until next Tuesday! I can hardly wait to hug her and see her smiling face...and her boyfriend too of course!

She is an amazing young woman and she found herself an equally amazing young man. She is my miracle child...born 8 weeks early and not breathing...they did not think she would live...ultrasounds told my doctors that she was a boy so that is what I had been planning for...what a surprise we got, when out came a girl!

She had liver and lung problems...had to be on a apnea and heart monitor for her first year of life...she had a hard time gaining weight...she didn't talk much until she was close to 4 years old...then we couldn't get her to be quiet of course. There were times that the doctors didn't give me much hope of having a normal, healthy daughter. My girl was and still is a fighter. My daughter defied all the odds against her...you have to remember 25 years ago they didn't have the technology that they do now. Even though school was hard for her in some aspects she worked hard and played sports through out high school and then went to college and graduated from the University of Minnesota. Now she works at a behavioral health center for adolescence.

She is a beautiful young woman with an equally beautiful heart. She is kind, passionate,giving and wants to do so many things to make this world a better place. I cannot imagine what my life would have been like the last 25 years without her...she has made me a better person and taught me so many things about life and love and being true to myself. She is what I like to call authentic. I wish that you could meet her because I know you would see what I see. Her boyfriend is equally amazing and you would like him too...and honestly, if I could pick someone for her, it would be him, but today this is just about my girl.

The beauty of our relationship is that I am not just her mom, she is not just my child, we are friends. Even if we were not related I would still like/love her and want to be her friend. Having her so far away is hard...I am in a constant state of missing her. Getting to finally touch her, hug her, kiss her, look at her, have fun with her, laugh with her, talk with her face to face is everything to me. I want every moment I have with her to be imprinted in my mind so that I have it to hang on to when she leaves again. I wish for time to slow down this week...wish it could actually stop...I want to just take it all in. I know there will be changes in her...good things, beautiful things...I know that her beauty will have matured and no matter how many pictures I have seen of her this last year, they will not have done her justice. She will be here soon...I can hardly wait! Can you tell?

4 comments:

christinewith6 said...

Yay!!! Have Fun!

The Mom said...

What a sweet story, I can feel the love and anticipation in your words! ;)

Cheryl said...

hey there! i'm so glad to hear you are getting to see your daughter and her boyfriend. family is so very special. i know when i travel with work, it use to be very, very hard for me to be away from my children. it wasn't a good time for me. with them getting older and me getting some help with medication i am able to accept our time away alot better. in a couple years that time away will come to an end. we will be around alot more and be able to spend time with family so enjoy, enjoy, enjoy your time with her and her special friend. i hope time stands still for you also. have a great time with her! she has a great mom! not to forget "Friend" take care........

Beth said...

awwww.. HAve so much fun with your BEST FRIEND!!!