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Monday, September 29, 2008

When evil comes to visit

I know that calling a person "evil" sounds harsh...I know that evil is a strong word because it isn't just calling someone bad, it's saying something deeper then that. I have known my share of not so nice people...people that you would call "bad" but I also have known a few that I would call evil, because there was something deeper and meaner to their badness...it's something that makes the hair on the back of your neck stand up. Evil in it's purest form comes as a disguise of niceness and love, when all along what lies underneath is quite the opposite. Evil tries to make you think they are your friend when they are not. Evil not only stabs you in the back but they go right for your heart. Sometimes evil smiles at you...sometimes they come bearing gifts...sometimes evil has a beautiful face. Sometimes we are related to them and love them.

For the last 5 days evil has been a guest in my home...in my sanctuary...in my safe haven. I invited it here to stay with us because I didn't want to believe that it is what it is...evil. I did it because I love her and want her to be a part of my family...mostly, I did it for my husband. My home has been invaded with evils ugliness and selfishness, clothed in all it's glory and it created an atmosphere of chaos and strife. Within 24 hours of entering our home, this evil, took over my two happy, well behaved little people and stole them away...not in the physical sense but in every other way. It left in their place two little people that I don't know anymore...two whining, tantrum throwing, screaming, baby talking children.

Little man, who hasn't wet in his pants once or wet the bed in 6 weeks, has been wetting his pants and wet the bed every night since evil came inside the door. Please know that in no way do I blame them for leaving, because I know they are just reacting to the evil that came to visit...I think part of me has been hiding away too. Evil bought many gifts while staying with us...made promises of ponies, puppies and kitties...evil smiled at me while making a mockery of all that we had accomplished in the last year and a half. Evil went against everything we asked of her.

Tomorrow morning evil will leave our home. Once evil is gone, I will walk through the house and pray...pray that any evil residue that she left behind will be absent from this home. And then, I will take my two little people into my arms and love them back to themselves...I will bring them back to the peace and harmony that they once knew. We will leave this behind us as we drive away tomorrow for our vacation in Florida.

Evil will not ruin us...will not stop us from moving on ahead. Evil taught us a lesson and in the days ahead when aunts, uncles and cousins are loving, playing and spending time with our little people, we will have time to catch up on the sleep we did not get while she was here...so that we can talk alone, with clear and open minds. We will figure out how we will handle evil and to what extent she will be allowed into our lives in the future. Evil brought turmoil into our home but she did not win. Evil will not win.

****I apologize if I have been absent from reading or commenting on your blog this past week. This visit has consumed my life and I have had very little sleep since last Wednesday night.

9 comments:

Claire Marie said...

Pack your new clothes! Pack your little children and their backpacks of fun things to do. Pack your wonderful husband and leave this behind you. It taught you to not do it again if nothing else!!!! It reminded the two of you what you have created as a peaceful and loving existence for these little people. AND It reminded you of why you have done this for them.

Safe travels. Good times. Much love. And some peace to go with it all. Surround yourselves in all that is wonderful with big family gatherings.

Love to you all!

Jason said...

What a nightmare. Isn't it amazing how one person can just upset the balance and happiness that exists in your life and the ones you love?

I'm glad this is over. I wish you only the best in deciding where to go from this point.

And everything that Claire said! She's one wise woman.

Midlife Slices said...

Yep, just turn your back on evil and move forward. It was a lesson learned and you had to do it or you'd always have questioned whether you did the right thing. Now there will be no questioning. You did the right thing and now you're still doing the right thing. They will be o.k. YOu will be o.k. Have fun and be safe.

Plunger Girl said...

That's sad.

Time for vacation and lots of time spent loving yourself!

Smart Mouth Broad said...

Your trip could not come at a better time! Time to reflect and get a new perspective. Time to treat YOU! Refresh, renew, shake off all the "residue" that evil left behind. Have a great time and a safe trip!

thistle said...

i'm in agreement with everyone else here..you gave her a chance, and now you know. The holiday is a godsend, coming at just the right time...get you away from any bad mojo she may have left behind in the environment and help everyone put the visit behind them...

Enjoy yourself...you all deserve it...

Beth said...

I agree with "smart mouth"...that vacation couldn't come at a better time...for all of you. It's a hard lesson to learn, but you gotta keep "evil" out...

D'Arcy said...

I will pray and add my good energy that the evil residue will leave as well. You must protect your family at all costs.

Bina said...

Good Lord. I am so sorry, but I'm sure in a way, you expected it, just a little, even though that doesn't make it easier.

What makes me really angry, is how dare she make promises she not only can't keep, but has NO intention of keeping! And this is proof that she does NOT need to get those kids back!

You are to great of a person, and a mother, and you love those kids so much. I'm sure they will be back to normal soon, because you are just that great.

But man, yea, I've felt that way about someone before, but it's a long story I will have to post about.