First of all thank you for listening. Even though I don't have many people that read what I write, those of you that do and leave me comments of such kindness and wise insights are such kind, caring, awesome people. I know this not only for the comments you leave me, but in what I read in your blogs. Seriously, you people are amazing and I hope you know that my life is blessed because of having met you out here in blogmanity. I love this word...blogmanity. I stole it from The Jason Show. He is an amazing person and is known to give me a laugh or two every week...it would be worth your time to stop in there and check him out. I must admit that I may be a little partial to him because it was through him that I met this really amazing woman that is on a similar journey as mine.
We made the decision to give our daughter one more chance to agree to our original agreement in which we have the custody until she gets her life together by going to counseling and taking a parenting class and then coming here for some long, regularly scheduled visits and then working on transitioning the kids, over time, back to her and then giving her back the custody. If she signs this, we will not have to go to court. We made this offer to her on Tuesday evening but have had no response from her as of yet. She gave birth to a son yesterday afternoon, so we are giving her another day to respond. If she refuses this agreement, we have made the decision that we will fight for full, permanent custody, with her getting scheduled visiting time here. Yes, this will be a long, expensive battle with no guarantee that we will win, but, we know in our hearts that we have to do this for the children's well being and our peace of heart.
As we play this waiting game, my heart aches as I watch my little people playing so happily, as they have no clue that their future...their destiny, very likely lies in the hands of some judge. I am already praying for this judge and everyone else that will come into play as they try to decide what the future holds for two little people. All I know is that while we are here, in this place, we will continue to love, train and guide these little people in the way they should go...we will give them all that they deserve until someone says that we can't or can...and when that day comes we will know that we did everything possible.
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Oh honey, I'll be praying as well, cause it appears that no matter how hard you try, and how many chances you give your daughter, those children are better off with you. A mother should never even question being a mother, and those who do?
I'm sorry, I'm just so .... pig headed and opinionated when it comes to mother's, because mine sucked so bad, and I always wished someone would take me away.
While I was sitting awaiting my own turn in family court today I pondered the people around me. There I was watching several young girls, one of which had given birth just a few days ago, acting like being there was no big deal.
I do not know what causes this. I do know that I did not raise my own daughter to act or be the way that she is. Mental illness is surely her ailment. Perhaps drug addiction is another cause for some of these girls. I do not know or understand. What causes a mother to not bond with her baby at birth in the way that I myself bonded with my children?
There is no possible way I could have ever harmed my children, neglected their care nor let them be taken away for even one minute. I believe that most of us are this way. What we are experiencing is a minute segment of society that we do not and, in my case, cannot understand.
It is up to those of us who do bond and love and protect the children to continue to do so. Then we have to trust those who are in a position to do so...make things right for the little ones legally. It is a shame that parental rights are strong and little voices are small.
You are kept in my prayers to God and my simple expressions of hope sent off to the universe itself.
Hope on this good energy my friend....I was granted full legal guardianship of my infant grandson today. The judge then said, "The court is granting you permission to return to your home in Nevada." These were powerful words after being stuck 300 miles away in Los Angeles for all these months waiting to see what would happen.
There is a God. He protects little children. He allows everyone their free agency. He knows our hearts and loves us each individually. Those are the facts as I know them.
God Bless you daily my friend to be strong!
You made the right decision. It must have been incredibly difficult, and for that you have my respect. But ultimately, you did what was best for the majority of the people involved. Once your daughter gets herself together, she will see it too, and thank you.
Stay strong.
i'm here listening too, you are doing what is best for those little ones. take care okay. i'm glad claire won her case also. just keep loving those little ones. we can never give them too much love. being a gramma is the best thing next to being a mom that ever happened to me. you're in my thoughts lori, hang in there girl!!
You are covered in prayer. May HE place a hedge of protection around your little people.
Will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
Thank you for coming by my blog, and your sweet comment.
It is a long and arduous road you have embarked on. One I have seen from both sides as a foster and adoptive parent. One that as the parent of children with moderate disabilities I continue to climb up and down. But I do so willingly and with a glad heart. For they are MY heart.
You may be one of those invisible women...however it seems as though you are doing an AMAZING job at taking on that role in the way the good Lord intended.
Bravo, my dear. Bravo.
Hope to see you around again. I'll be back to visit.
In my prayers....
P.S. Isn't Beth just the greatest....and I see Ms. Bina up there too. I like her alot too.
My Dad fought tooth and nail for my sisters and I. I use to cry and pray (I was 6)that things would be different and I could be with her. I didn't realize until I was 21 years old that she was an alcoholic and my life would have been hell if I'd been raised by her. I thank God my Daddy loved me enough to fight for me. Your grandchildren will too. You will be in my prayers.
I'm sorry you are forced with making such a hard decision, but your grandchildren are so lucky to have someone like you in their lives.
Godspeed, my friend! And may He go before you!
Thank you for your kind words! I so appreciate them.
I knew the instant I laid eyes on your blog that you and Claire would have a certain bond. I'm so glad that I was right.
And as for your step daughter having a new baby. . .UGH. UGH. Unreal and unbelievable.
I wish only the best for you.
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