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Friday, March 5, 2010

Update

Greetings from Brittany at Unexpected Surprises....

My mom asked me to do a guest post for her. Sitting and blogging is too much for her right now. Although she has started many posts, it has been hard for her to finish them. This is killing my mom. She loves reading your posts, and interacting with you. You are her window to the outside world. You are the people that understand her situation the most. I want you all to know that she cares about all of you so much, and misses your encouraging comments and support.

When I saw my mom at the airport, she looked normal. In fact it wasn't until I looked at the details of her life that I realized how sick she was. It was in the un-dusted shelves, and spots on the windows.It was in the tone of her voice. It was in the weight gain. It was the look in her eyes, and the lack of energy.  It was the utter look of helplessness she gave me at times.

My mom is seeing several doctors at the moment. She is going in next Thursday to see a new doctor, and to have some tests done. She is looking forward to getting more information, and hopefully it is one step closer to her becoming healthy! *fingers crossed*

It is hard to watch her in pain, but it was harder to be halfway across the country not knowing what was going on. I am so blessed to have the opportunity to be here with my mom and to be able to encourage her, and take care of her. I know that God is going to take care of her, and make her stronger because of this. I have to remind myself on a daily basis that she is in his hands. Big thank yous to all of you who have written my mom to encourage her, to all of you who have prayed, and for all of you that have inspired her. She'll be back soon, until then keep her in your prayers!

42 comments:

Claire Marie said...

Brittany, you know that footprints in the sand poem? Well, sometimes Christ sends us people to carry us through just as you are carrying your mom right now. This post makes me happy because I know she is feeling your love and she is not alone but surrounded by loving people. Do not let her feel guilty for having you there. I know she is feeling it but tell her a million times a day to stop and let her know how important it is for her to learn the lesson of allowing help into her life unconditionally. She is a giver and a caretaker in the most literal sense and her lesson of allowing the being taken care of is here and now. With you. What a blessing! My prayers are with you and your mom and your family. Love to Lori! Strength to Lori! Hope for the new doctor! I am shouting it from Nevada.

jpooh said...

Oh, Brittany, I am SO glad you are there for your mother. She is just about the sweetest, kindest and most caring person I know, online or in the real world.

Please tell her that Jan from the Sushi Bar sends her love and a big hug, too!

The Incredible Woody said...

Give her a great big hug from me. She is always such an inspiration to me - so loving, so kind. It breaks my heart to think about her in such pain. Please know that all of you will be in my prayers!

mommytoalot said...

Hi there,
thanks for the update. I was thinking of your mom .
Please tell her she is in my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa

TechnoBabe said...

This is a great post, and it means alot to know how your mom is doing. Please give her a hug and tell her to take care of herself. I know that your being there is such a help to her now.

Brian Miller said...

thanks for the update...was just talking with another blogger the other day and wondering where your mom went...thoughts and prayers as she continues the journey...and lok forward o her healthy return...

Fragrant Liar said...

Brittany, thanks so much for the update. I have been wondering how your mom has been doing, and worrying. I'm glad to hear she has the support of her family and a team of doctors. Please give her a HUGE hug from Kimber at Fragrant Liar. I send my very warmest wishes for her speedy recovery, good health, happiness, and most of all peace of mind.

Busy Bee Suz said...

Thank you for the update Brittany...although I wished it was better. Your mom has been in my thoughts and prayers. I really was hoping that not hearing from her meant she was crazy busy with life. I only wish...

I am SO happy you are there with her. I can't imagine how happy this makes her. And the little ones as well.
You are a wonderful daughter...I can only wish mine will be as good to me as you are to your mom.
Give her hugs...encouragement and love from me!!!!

xoxoxox
Suz

Natalie said...

Love to you all. Big hugs and many prayers for healing.xx♥

Madison said...

You will be blessed for helping her out. I think in antidepressant TV commercials there should be a warning that, for some, these little pills turn dark days into midnight.

LPC said...

Your mother has been such an inspiration. I hope it all gets taken care of soon.

Jason, as himself said...

Wow, Brittany, I didn't realize it had gotten so bad. How very frustrating.

Thank you for posting and keeping us up to date.

Tell your mom Jason says hi and get well soon because the blog world needs her!

Susan said...

I keep reminding myself these days that spring always follows winter... always.
Praying that your inner spring comes soon!

Kit Kat said...

Brittany,
I don't even know what to say. I cried reading this post. Then I cried again reading all the comments.
It's been awhile since I have sent your mom a message, but she is always in my thoughts and prayers. She is one of the few people that I truly think about every day.
It is so painfully heartbreaking to hear about the pain that she is going through, and I wish that it would just disappear. That is why I initially cried.
Then I cried because I was so happy that she has an amazing daughter to take care of her when she needs it the most. That she has a family, a physical family and an entire cyber community that love her so much! Please give her my love along with everyone else's. And call me if you ever need anything!

Jacquelyn said...

Brittany (what a pretty name!) I'm so happy to know you are there with your mom now. I'm praying for her...she has been such an inspiration to me. I miss her stopping by my place and leaving encouraging comments too. I do not understand why these doctors pushed these dangerous drugs and I don't know much about withdrawal except from what your mom has had to say. Your mom has been so strong for so many for so long. She needs time and space and love to heal now. Thank God you are there. Take care and God bless you all. We her friends anxiously await the day we here good news from Lori again. Sending love your way.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Brittany, Thank you so much for posting and update on your Mom. I actually woke up in the middle of the night yesterday thinking about her. My prayers and virtual hugs are sent her way daily.

It must be a huge relief for her to have you with her. Please know prayers and support are being sent to you too.

Please tell your mom not to worry about posting, we're all still here for her and I'm keeping her on my sidebar so I'll be able to see any updates from you or her.

Wishing tour mom an easy, smooth and complete recovery. Love to you all.
xo

otin said...

I just Emailed her the other day and received no response, which really had me worried. Lori, please realize how many people love and care about you. You can turn this thing around (((HUGS)))

steppinthru said...

It's always so hard when a parent and a child suddenly find themselves changing places. To be the caregiver for the entire life of your child and then to find yourself in a position where your child is having to take the reins and care for you is hard. BUT, it is such a blessing to have a child who cares enough to want to step into that position. Your Mom is a precious woman and she is going to be alright in time. Love will always see you through the dark places. Give Lori my love and well wishes. She will continue to be in my prayers.
Susan

MGM said...

Thanks for the update and so sorry to hear of you mom's ongoing struggles. Sending hugs and prayers your way (and her way)!

gram said...

Lori (Brittany) i am thinking of you and missing you also. time will heal and strength will get you through this hurting time.
i remember wayyyy back when you were reading and commenting on my little blog, i enjoyed what you had to say then, and i miss what you have to say now.
get better my blogger friend, i know you are in good hands with brittany, your husband and whomever else is helping you thru this.
till then, take care.
hugs,
~cheryl~
(thanks for the update brittany!)

Midlife Mama said...

Hi Brittany, THanks for posting for your mom. I was worried about her and wondered how she was faring. I know that depression and anxiety is a special kind of hell. I am praying for her and hoping that she will come out the other side soon. :)

Susan said...

Just stopping by. Saying a prayer, and holding out hope.
You're not alone on this journey. You're in my thoughts. Today, I'd like to share the sunshine with you, the birds singing, and the green things that are starting to grow again.
Be well. You matter! God is with you.

wolfie185 said...

Brittany, thank you for this most welcome update. I am glad you are there for your mom!! She has been and will continue to be in my prayers. All we can do is the footwork and then leave the rest up to the Divine One.

Give her a big hug from Nebraska for me.

Love and Hugs
Scott

Nancy said...

Sending love, light, and the best of wishes for her returning good health!

otin said...

Lori, I was just checking in again. We miss you!

Stella said...

I'm sending the biggest hug to you and your mom!

Buckeroomama said...

Brittany, thank you for writing this update. I am so glad that you are there with her. Please hug her for us and let her know that she is in our thoughts and prayers.

Midlife Jobhunter said...

Still in my thoughts, Lori. How lucky to have a daughter to watch over you. Be well very soon.

Bina said...

Thinking of you and hoping things have gotten better. Please post something and let us know.

Alix said...

Hi Brittany! So glad you're there watching over your mom. I can only imagine how difficult all this is to cope with and get through. It's such a debilitating illness! Bless you for being there.

In her last post, your mom really laid it out there and I only then began to see the desperation of her condition. I love her so much and am praying for her speedy recovery. Hope the doctors are able to figure things out fast and give her some well deserved relief.

Please keep us informed.

Blessings to you all.

Joanna Jenkins said...

Thinking of you and sending love, prayers and hugs you way.
xo jj

steppinthru said...

Lori, I am still praying for you and think of you often. Take care of yourself and come back soon. Ask Brittany to give us another update please. You have a lot of friends on here who are concerned. Happy Resurrection Day.

Stacy (the Random Cool Chick) said...

Definitely keeping your mom in my thoughts and prayers. ((HUGZ!!))

Snappy Di said...

Just checking to see how you are doing. Sending good thoughts and wishes your way. Hope to see you back in Bloggyland soon, happy and healthy again.

Di
The Blue Ridge Gal

The Incredible Woody said...

I woke this morning with you on my mind and wanted to let you know that I love you and I miss you.

gram said...

thinking of you today. sending you a smile. hope you are feeling better.

gram said...

where arrrrrrrrrrrrrrr u?

LiLu said...

I will be thinking of you both!!!

(bear hug)

Life with Kaishon said...

I have been thinking of and praying for you every day Lori. I hope things are getting better. I just want you to know that I care. And I miss you. And your encouragement as well as your positive outlook!

Brian Miller said...

hey there...just popping by to see how you are doing. way thinking about you today...

Brian Miller said...

great to hear from you today...thanks for letting me know you are still out there! best of wishes!

Together We Save said...

Thanks for the update... let your mom know we are praying for her.