tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post795177130625727213..comments2023-11-03T03:48:05.784-05:00Comments on My Life Interrupted: Reflections in the MirrorLorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04441204804740501624noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-8436095683795638472011-01-30T07:35:10.718-06:002011-01-30T07:35:10.718-06:00Stay in this mindset.
You were created as glorious...Stay in this mindset.<br />You were created as glorious,<br />and believing that is belief .Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15924061349390319473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-9022507479744737052011-01-27T21:10:21.384-06:002011-01-27T21:10:21.384-06:00"I found that I am even more of a bigger obst..."I found that I am even more of a bigger obstacle in my own way, then I previously thought."<br />I needed to read that, and remind myself of that.<br />Thanks for your raw honesty in this post. You revealed yourself, and yet it is all so relatable...if that helps you feel less alone. We are all on that journey too. Keep the dialogue open.<br />Tanya365 Attempts (At Life)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07180866827871627188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-1846786884421537962011-01-27T13:45:24.001-06:002011-01-27T13:45:24.001-06:00Your self-talk and my self-talk have a history of ...Your self-talk and my self-talk have a history of hanging out together, and it's not good. I'm glad you are working to combat that evil (because yes, it is evil what we allow ourselves to think about ourselves). This was actually a discussion several moms had during a Cub Scout meeting this month. We need to support one another. I'm so glad you are treating yourself better, with love and respect. You deserve it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-17136183594859939812011-01-25T11:19:45.412-06:002011-01-25T11:19:45.412-06:00Lori, this was great to read. Actually I just rec...Lori, this was great to read. Actually I just recently heard this same sort of thing from another source...how we often say negative things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to others. I love your 3 goals for each day too, and that you are choosing to take time for yourself during the little's quiet time. This is going to be your best year ever, I just know it!<br />Sending lots of love your way!Jacquelyn Stagerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04051731884653793193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-52870795515057876862011-01-22T08:45:08.240-06:002011-01-22T08:45:08.240-06:00Dear one, you are on the right track. When I was r...Dear one, you are on the right track. When I was reading this my inter voice was saying "don't go there alone!!" further reading showed you weren't. Correcting low self esteem and deep self exploration are wonderful things and bring about positive changes but it has to be done with a therapist, spiritual advisor, mentor or sponsor, what we find is sometimes scary. If we open doors without a guide, we tend to close them again and stay in the safety of the known sickness. Once you have the tools firmly inplace as a part of your daily living, you will be able use insights and awareness without them causing trauma. You have done the first step which is admitance, "we admit we are powerless over ------, and out lives have become unmanageable" congradulations!<br /><br />Self shaming is a bitch to overcome. For the majority of my life others used shame words towards me, parents, kids at school, workmates, even friends and lovers. I then like you used these same ugly words or phrase towards myself. My favorite was "dumbass", I also called myself "freak". Through mindfulness today I rarely use such self deflating language, if I do I automatically tell myself "it's alright, you are only human, shit happens" I also take responsibility for wrong actions in a positive way, accepting I made a mistake without beating myself up over it. I have also put a loving spin on "freak", today I use it as a word of self acceptance, I am a bit of a freak and I am good with it. <br /><br />"Me time" is important for all of us. We have to stop and take care of ourselves. This might be hard for you in the being but the more you practice the easier it gets. Being a caregiver can be a bad thing, I know this. We give too much and get sick and resentful, we become doormats. Again with practice you will find balance. <br /><br />Please keep your expectations do-able, if you set the bar too high you will give up. What you are going is wonderful and it just takes time, it is about progress not prefection. <br /><br />I keep you in my prayers. <br /><br />Hugs <br />Scottwolfie185https://www.blogger.com/profile/08113710218994046562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-23058818710458556822011-01-22T07:06:27.663-06:002011-01-22T07:06:27.663-06:00Morning Lori,
I think of you often and keep you an...Morning Lori,<br />I think of you often and keep you and yours in my prayers nightly. I didn't realize how hard you are on yourself, I am glad you are taking the time to focus on you for once. It's tough, I know and although I am not aware of all the trauma you have been through, I can relate at times. I don't much like mirrors or cameras...i hate seeing myself...my life revolves are the kids and i need to take better care of myself. Both inside and out.<br />You are so full of positive energy ...use that for your beautiful self too<br />..thinking of you,<br />your Canadian friend,<br />Lisamommytoalothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08389938416950823534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-753630733572903072011-01-22T03:31:34.844-06:002011-01-22T03:31:34.844-06:00Much love to you Lori, you are simply wonderful. Y...Much love to you Lori, you are simply wonderful. Your posts never cease to amaze me. <br /><br />xoKatherine Schultzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07093070482905605053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-4473723002310318982011-01-22T02:35:15.692-06:002011-01-22T02:35:15.692-06:00Hi Lori. This road you are embarking on is the mos...Hi Lori. This road you are embarking on is the most important one, because if you cannot love yourself and feel at peace, what do the other things really count for ? I applaud your honesty and courage, and I wish you much strength on this journey. I'm 42 and I think I'm just now learning to love and appreciate myself. Everything falls into place when you're treating yourself well. Take care of yourself.Zellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04331254180053293507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-8348288084760906812011-01-21T19:20:29.793-06:002011-01-21T19:20:29.793-06:00Good for you. I am cheering you on and believe me,...Good for you. I am cheering you on and believe me, I know about the difficulty in really looking at yourself in the mirror. Hugs to you and I wish you continued honesty and love for yourself. You are worth it.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-11272976758901884372011-01-21T18:25:06.513-06:002011-01-21T18:25:06.513-06:00hey there friend, remember that you are beautiful ...hey there friend, remember that you are beautiful inside and out. instead of giving yourself the finger, give it to the person that tailgates you in a snow storm or honks their horn coz you are driving too cautiously, they are the ones who deserve the finger, NOT yourself. You are a fine person, you work hard, you put your family first, and you have a ton of love in your heart. alot of people don't have any of that. keep strong, keep pushing forward, and never, never think you are less than beautiful. have a GREAT weekend, stay warm, we had 27 below this morning...yuk.<br />Hugs my friend!<br />cgramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14230859039601603477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-16592179646161444922011-01-21T15:16:25.940-06:002011-01-21T15:16:25.940-06:00Loving yourself is very hard. I'm sure many pe...Loving yourself is very hard. I'm sure many people go through the same thing.<br /><br />I used to do an exercise every morning where I looked myself in the eyes and said a list of about 10 things like:<br /><br />I love you.<br />You are beautiful.<br />You are smart.<br />You are talented, etc.<br /><br />It's very hard just to look yourself in the eyes let alone say these things and start to mean it.<br /><br />I get into the blaming thing where I think everything is somehow my fault and then i remind myself that i am not really all powerful. Gives me a chuckle.Nessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07779269921583131094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-10273802540098836012011-01-21T14:29:27.110-06:002011-01-21T14:29:27.110-06:00I hope you allow yourself to be all those things y...I hope you allow yourself to be all those things you haven't. You are too important. Don't ignore yourself.Liz Mayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13960276167677132860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-57264369112295475832011-01-21T09:54:23.954-06:002011-01-21T09:54:23.954-06:00I wish none of us ever had to deal with such diffi...I wish none of us ever had to deal with such difficulties. Sometimes, most of the time, our relationship with our "self" is the most difficult one to get right. You are dong a great job. <br /><br />I woke up this morning having a panic attack and beating myself up about it. I needed to read this and be reminded that I deserve my own kindness and understanding. Thank you.Claudya Martinezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17034216831504207496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-71277135795360422612011-01-21T09:40:33.344-06:002011-01-21T09:40:33.344-06:00Much love to you, my brave friend.Much love to you, my brave friend.I Am Woodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10103866761536902069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-38976481810906670522011-01-21T05:35:26.719-06:002011-01-21T05:35:26.719-06:00Lori, you're post made me feel sad, but encour...Lori, you're post made me feel sad, but encouraged. Every day, you leave such kind comments on my blogs posts. You don't even know me yet, you take the time to reach out. And it puts a smile on my face. I think its wonderful that you shared your thoughts about how you feel about yourself so openly and honestly. It will help you release it all. So many of us feel your pain. We have been there, looking in the mirror and refusing to see the good that others seem to see in us. <br />You have dedicated your life to caring for others, I am so grateful you recognize that it's ok to take care of yourself...Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00219338188376782759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-45658017091569583422011-01-20T23:29:23.311-06:002011-01-20T23:29:23.311-06:00Lori, an honest post, if ever there was one. Beaut...Lori, an honest post, if ever there was one. Beautiful you full of hopefulness and doing the work.Unspokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16065870952905767595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-59451942339031031642011-01-20T21:22:07.783-06:002011-01-20T21:22:07.783-06:00Your words and actions are so wise. I am going to...Your words and actions are so wise. I am going to try to follow your example, Thank you for your honest sharing.Joyce Grayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07914530010756608451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-55348237344319208872011-01-20T20:55:58.645-06:002011-01-20T20:55:58.645-06:00Whoo Hoo! Wel done, Lori. *does the happy dance* W...Whoo Hoo! Wel done, Lori. *does the happy dance* WhooT!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919764140075852854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-6781040463255517972011-01-20T19:12:16.345-06:002011-01-20T19:12:16.345-06:00Lori, my prayer for you is that you could see in y...Lori, my prayer for you is that you could see in yourself what others see in you. Remember, God loved you so much that he sent His Son to ransom you from your sins. If He thinks you're that valuable, who are you to argue? :)Linda at To Behold The Beautyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07419060763634934217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-50010226808210145042011-01-20T18:18:41.049-06:002011-01-20T18:18:41.049-06:00You are taking so many positive steps towards embr...You are taking so many positive steps towards embracing YOU.<br />So proud of you. SO glad you are taking time for yourself....you deserve it.<br />I hope your therapies help you too Lori. You deserve good health as well as self love and happiness. <br />xoxoxoBusy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-89930783167511196002011-01-20T17:58:36.937-06:002011-01-20T17:58:36.937-06:00Ah, Lori. My favorite thing to say to myself is &...Ah, Lori. My favorite thing to say to myself is "If you had a brain, you'd be dangerous." I can so relate.<br /><br />Having said that - "I’ve been known to give myself the finger upon seeing myself in the mirror" made me just about die laughing. Probably because I can so relate. You are a gem, my friend.<br /><br />JanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-82773186853266857152011-01-20T17:52:09.622-06:002011-01-20T17:52:09.622-06:00And breathe. Be sure to breathe. Blogging is a gre...And breathe. Be sure to breathe. Blogging is a great source of support, and take it very slowly and carefully.LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-31440757824780705082011-01-20T16:34:13.960-06:002011-01-20T16:34:13.960-06:00Lori, I am so proud of you, for your honesty, your...Lori, I am so proud of you, for your honesty, your tremendous courage not only in sharing your heart with us here, but more importantly, the courage to open your heart to yourself...to begin to see the beauty that is yours alone, the beauty that is YOU. Keep looking in that mirror, keep being the nurturer that you are, it is such a wonderful quality and now it is time (as you clearly understand) to be the loving mother/caregiver for yourself...you are off to a very good start...well, not a start, a continuation of this journey that led you up to this point so far...it is wise to take small gentle steps my friend...trust that you know what you need to know already, everything is inside of you waiting for you to say, "it's ok to come out now, it's safe, I'm ready, I'm present to all of my brokenness, I'm willing to embrace every shard, enfold it all into the wholeness of who I am...a radiant being deserving of my own love and respect first, and always."<br /><br />bright blessings to you dear one.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15349928247626849914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-65429955132095771512011-01-20T16:13:04.733-06:002011-01-20T16:13:04.733-06:00You are one of the most open bloggers I read. I...You are one of the most open bloggers I read. I'm always impressed with what I see in you. I hope you'll learn to love what that mirror reflects back at you. Hugs to you.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-37038193893691565652011-01-20T16:01:16.767-06:002011-01-20T16:01:16.767-06:00woot. i am glad that you are replacing what you ar...woot. i am glad that you are replacing what you are geting rid of...much easier than just trying to give up...and it sounds like you made an honest critique of yourself and are heading in a positive direction...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.com