tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post5832387655605929029..comments2023-11-03T03:48:05.784-05:00Comments on My Life Interrupted: Help! I’m talking and I can’t shut up!Lorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04441204804740501624noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-33746607603129843932009-11-02T18:54:25.346-06:002009-11-02T18:54:25.346-06:00Yes, I think a new phrase has been coined - "...Yes, I think a new phrase has been coined - "duct tape moments" --and I have my share as well.<br /><br />I agree with Jan's comment that your Little People must feel totally loved and secure by their reaction to what you said. How wonderful!<br /><br />Duct tape comes in coordinating colors? Maybe that will help!Jacquelyn Stagerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04051731884653793193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-74458102762723436962009-10-30T05:50:47.653-05:002009-10-30T05:50:47.653-05:00I'm usually pretty good around the kids, but a...I'm usually pretty good around the kids, but around my wife? Holy crap do I have duct tape moments.SciFi Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10479890087443823197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-40400345149740052782009-10-29T21:15:07.576-05:002009-10-29T21:15:07.576-05:00I can definitely relate, especially when I have th...I can definitely relate, especially when I have these types of moments at work. Sometimes I just blurt something out and only once it's out does it occur to me that maybe I shouldn't have let it slip.Children of the 90shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10068332403419147306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-82872687921004137352009-10-29T18:11:52.353-05:002009-10-29T18:11:52.353-05:00Fantastic post Lori and very honest! Sad to say, I...Fantastic post Lori and very honest! Sad to say, I have had many moments where the tongue was faster than the brain. It's too bad that our brains were not designed with a 3-5 second delay mechanism so that we could quickly scan our thoughts before they develop into words. That would save a lot of grief for all involved. As for the swearing part, I can honestly say that I am no different from anybody else when my emotions overide my logic. This has been one of the things that I have worked hard on in the past year. Although, I have been a trooper in front of the wee ones. And, I have even had to remind a few adults who were unleashing the occasional blue streak. Somtimes, when we hear others fly off the handle, it gives us reason to check our own habits before passing judgement. Thanks for a wonderful read.Bogeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04621010857974456199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-22141016621672398392009-10-29T13:00:12.774-05:002009-10-29T13:00:12.774-05:00Having children has definitely helped me "che...Having children has definitely helped me "check" my words or at least not rush into blurting out something. Not easy and I still struggle, but I show a lot more restraint now compared to how I was when I was much younger. Words are very powerful and they can cut deep. Sometimes even under the best of intentions, the words don't come out right... and those are the instances when it's just better to stay mum.Buckeroomamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02408502555249594576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-58511042779669620732009-10-29T11:43:01.265-05:002009-10-29T11:43:01.265-05:00I was once talking to a few people at a social gat...I was once talking to a few people at a social gathering that involved cars. We were talking about various cars we had owned. Someone asked me how many cars we had bought and sold in the time we had known them. I began to talk as I was thinking and I said, "..... blah blah blah.... then there was that piece of crap Toyota but that doesn't count right?" It was a few sentences later than I was still talking but realizing that the man who had bought that piece of crap Toyota was to my right. What made it worse was this conversation was originally made complimentary by him and his asking us how many "cool" cars we had owned. It still haunts me that I made him feel poorly about a car he actually loved and was proud of. What kind of fool am I? A not so pretty one. What goes on in our mind should not always come out of our mouths. IF If could just learn to change my thoughts so that they were never negatively charged it would be so easy. IF I were not so opinionated it would be so easy. IF IF IF!<br /><br />Send the duct tape my way. BTW Did you know it comes in all different colors not to match any outfit?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-45503205072227275422009-10-29T11:06:32.868-05:002009-10-29T11:06:32.868-05:00our words are the sharpest swords and most soothin...our words are the sharpest swords and most soothing balm...a lot of great points here...it is a disciple that must be maintained with the utmost diligence...jan makes a great point about anger as well...best to go find the duct tape...great post!Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-43977673213087563692009-10-29T10:48:42.091-05:002009-10-29T10:48:42.091-05:00My best friend and me call our worry about this &q...My best friend and me call our worry about this "blab paranoia." But we are worrying more about our social gaffes. Words ARE wounding, if we don't watch out. Something can be positioned as teasing, and, in fact, be terribly harmful. Your little guys are lucky you even think about this.LPChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18209861350905135093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-35495737025076954052009-10-29T10:34:45.004-05:002009-10-29T10:34:45.004-05:00What a wonderful post Lori and such a good reminde...What a wonderful post Lori and such a good reminder. I work daily on all the points you mention. Especially not using my favorite curse words. I save them for appreciative moments and my gals that have a sense of humor about expletives.<br /><br />Another one that seems to come at me a lot and I have had to deal with is judgemental and critical people offering advise. A lot of my women friends turned into Type A moms after they had kids and they can be extremely judgemental of other people's parenting and children. I find myself spending less time with them as it is offensive to me.Pseudohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10430783970802030846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-48259339915316145762009-10-29T10:02:27.130-05:002009-10-29T10:02:27.130-05:00As hard as I try, I still could use some duct tape...As hard as I try, I still could use some duct tape. I think we all have great intentions, but do let things slip. You are human, it happens.<br />Don't beat yourself up!!Busy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-33591714822861256892009-10-29T09:38:34.622-05:002009-10-29T09:38:34.622-05:00I think your kids are incredibly lucky to be raise...I think your kids are incredibly lucky to be raised by someone with the insight and sensitivity to know what a powerful influence words have. No one is perfect, but the very fact that you are aware and consciously TRY to be a positive force, is huge - truly!<br /><br />I cringe looking back on all the many times I've blurted out something I can never take back. You are so right, we all need to pause at times before engaging our mouth - but being human, we don't always succeed.Shrinkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18401403773851253351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-88878865576270620922009-10-29T09:28:00.629-05:002009-10-29T09:28:00.629-05:00All the time. Once again I love your post, so oft...All the time. Once again I love your post, so often they make me stop, reflect and think. Words are powerful, it scares me the power of words with my own children. I am afraid that in a moment of weakness I will say something that will wound them deeply, and I don't wish that for them as I lived through that myself as a child. When I get angry or frustrated is when things fly out of my mouth that were better left unsaid or spoken in a different way. I cringe when I see my children mimicking my poor behavior. They pick it up so fast, and they are so aware even when we don't think they are watching or listening! I have to admit that I am constantly resolving to do better, which of course means I regularly fall short...but I am trying and I'd like to think I've come a long way! :) My potty mouth has gotten a lot better anyways, except sometimes when I've been woken up for the tenth time in one night it does come back to haunt me...cringe. Someone once said that when ever you want to swear say the word beautiful instead, it's pretty funny and it works fairly well, when I'm not tired that is. ;) I heard my son say "Oh beautiful" when he dropped something the other day, and it made me giggle.Riahlihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08525310321786184469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-73798141796295280292009-10-29T09:14:56.427-05:002009-10-29T09:14:56.427-05:00Go ahead and send a couple of rolls my way;)Go ahead and send a couple of rolls my way;)I Am Woodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10103866761536902069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5235715250548029188.post-9116770965055254222009-10-29T09:07:25.078-05:002009-10-29T09:07:25.078-05:00I spent 12 years being hurt daily by the words of ...I spent 12 years being hurt daily by the words of someone - someone who deliberately used their words to do the most possible damage. As a result, I try to NEVER say anything in anger - even if you don't mean it, you can never, ever, ever take it back. I will walk away and cool off before I discuss anything when I'm so mad I'm not sure what I'll say.<br /><br />Everyone slips up now and again, though, so don't be so hard on yourself. Speaking of not being so hard on yourself, the reaction of your Little People is a testament to just how loved and secure they feel - if they had heard their mother, for example, say that, would they have had the same reaction? They really DO feel like they are the greatest prize in your life, because YOU make sure they do.Janhttp://www.janssushibar.comnoreply@blogger.com